November 12 2015 – Laura Wright
As the holidays approach, invitations to an array of festive events will start to appear. After you RSVP (and please, don't forget this important step!), you will begin to plan around the event; where will you eat, who will you go with, what will you wear?! During all of this brainstorming, don't forget to think about your host/s and hostess/es! Entertaining is often time consuming and expensive. While you are out bustling about buying gifts for family and friends, pick up something small as a sign of appreciation for your host!
I think notecards are always a perfect host or hostess gift... and if the event calls for it, something custom! Other ideas include: fresh flowers, wine, local/ artisan foods or something small for the home. As with all gift giving, it is important to first consider the recipient! A gift with a whole lot of thoughtfulness will go a long way!!
For a recent gathering I went to, I put together a small bundle consisting of an Anne Taintor tray, PPD cocktail napkins, thank you notes (by yours truly) and handmade coasters by a local artisan Winkster Designs... all tied together with a custom gift tag (again, by yours truly). I think the result was both appropriate and delightful!
A FEW ADDITIONAL TIPS FROM EMILY POST, THE QUEEN OF ETIQUETTE:
- Hostess gifts do not have to be elaborate or expensive.
- Consider the nature of the occasion and local custom when choosing your gift.
- In some parts of the country, hostess gifts are considered obligatory, while in other parts they are brought only on special occasion.
- If you are visiting someone's home for the first time, it is a nice gesture to bring a gift.
- Wrapping the gift adds to the gesture.
- CASUAL OR INFORMAL DINNER PARTY: Dinner party guests usually bring a hostess giveg unless they are close friends who dine together frequently.
- WHEN THERE IS A GUEST OF HONOR: Bring a gift for the honoree, unless the invitation specifies 'no gifts.'
- WHEN YOU ARE THE GUEST OF HONOR: Bring a gift for your host or hostess, or send flowers before the party. After the party, send a thank-you note.
- HOUSEWARMING: It's customary to bring a gift to a housewarming. It doesn't have to be expensive, but it should be something lasting for the house.
- WEEKEND VISIT: Either bring or send a gift. Your choice will depend on the the length of your stay and how elaborately you're entertained. Your gift should be sincere, thoughtful, personal, and fit your budget.
LOVE, LO :)
P.S. If you grab thank you notes to GIVE as a gift, pick up some for yourself too... It is always a wonderful gesture to send a thank you note to your host a day or two after the event!